Eye Contact.

Disclaimer: This is just an observation and a comment on previously mentioned obvservation. That is I am in no way dictating how you live your sex life.

Just to remove any further petty discrepancies via twitter this also not a user guide. When I write that, everyone will know.

Right.

Eye contact. Its a very popular part of social science, for example if you make eye contact your more likely to get the job or the extra credit for the class, further on from that- seem more interested and attractive to ones prospective partner and is (dont quote me) twice as likely to get the date.

Buy don't you dare slink into my boudoir and try those jedi mind tricks with me err no if you please Sir.

I was trained by the best. Long before I was seducing men on every corner (too funny) in London and even before I was staggering about table tops in oversized heels. My first trainer had some sort of no bullshit policy about it.

Rule one.
Charlotte must not look up under any circumstances without permission.

This is not a good rule to break, it can be painful. Although it is a standard practice in dicipline aspect of BDSM.

If we can just pause here. Last night it occured to me that half of you probably have no idea what Im on about here. Ace asked me last night what BDSM meant, it broke my heart a bit.

Incase you are innocent and uncorrupted like my dear Ace, BDSM stands for Bondage, Dicipline and Sado-Masochism. Which is to say you can tie me up, tell me to keep still, tell me off, whip me in punishment- you'll enjoy it and I'll enjoy it.

Off BDSM and onto porn. One of the staple scenes in pornography is Girl on knees giving Man blow job.

He says.

"Look at me baby oh yeah mmm keep looking"

This happens alot in my sessions too which is confusing me because I was always told to put all effort and enthusiasm into the job in hand or mouth as the case may be. Infact if I was ever caught looking mid job Id usually be punished in extreme and very very interesting ways.

I do sometimes look quickly at Ace but always look away again even quicker. Not for fear of getting caught- hell, Ace is hardly able to string a sentance together when I do that anyway, even still five (almost six) years after I was trained not to look and I still feel guilty? This is what makes me wonder. If eye contact is such an excellent tool for dicipline and a subcontious power play tool then what is the "look at me" during oral sex thing about anyway?